Humorous speakers – it’s more than telling jokes

Hi Dave – I do a lot of presentations through my job. These are specific to the industry, and I’d like to start speaking at related conferences. I’m not a stand-up comedian but know the importance of humor in getting my message across to an audience. Many of my friends think I am funny in an “I Love Lucy” kind of way… Which I suppose comes naturally. However, I am not sure how to release that side of me when I am giving a humorous presentation. Thanks – DB

Not funny!

Hey DB – When it comes to giving a humorous presentation – or performing as a comedian – the most important goal is to connect with your audience. That’s the bottom line. If you don’t connect, they won’t listen.

And one of the best ways to connect is to be yourself – to let your natural personality shine through.

Let me explain…

Working comics know that stand-up is more than just telling jokes. Anyone can tell a joke, but to be successful, you have to show who you are on stage. Comics, agents, and bookers call it your comedy voice. For speakers, I like to call it who you are on stage.

Look at legends like Rodney Dangerfield and Henny Youngman (and if you don’t know these guys, brush up on your comedy history). Their personalities made their material unforgettable. They could deliver quick, clever one-liners, but what really sold those jokes was them – their character, rhythm, and delivery.

Who? Me?

Fans could retell their jokes the next day at school or around the office water cooler, but the laughs were never quite the same. Why? Because they didn’t have Rodney’s hangdog face or Henny’s sharp timing. Their personalities made the jokes work.

Dangerfield’s humor came from his self-deprecating style – “I get no respect.”

Youngman was the wisecracker – “Take my wife… please!”

Without those distinct personalities, their jokes would have been forgettable.

The same goes for humorous speakers.

I often see speakers try to be “funny” by tossing in a random joke they found online or by reworking an old one to fit their topic. They think this makes them a humorous speaker – but it usually comes across as forced or phony.

Yeah – you!

I’ve seen it too many times: speakers hiding their natural personalities because they think being professional means being serious. That’s fine if your goal is to be strictly informational – but if you want to be memorable, engaging, and genuinely funny, you have to bring your real self to the stage.

So, your friends say you remind them of Lucille Ball. There’s truth in that. I’m sure you’re not trying to imitate Lucy – you just share some of her qualities naturally. That’s part of your charm, and it’s something you can use.

You don’t have to recreate her candy factory scene or hang off the side of a building to channel your inner Lucy. Her comedy wasn’t just slapstick – it was also about timing, expression, and physical energy. Maybe it’s the way you tell a story, use gestures, or react to a situation. Whatever it is, that’s your version of Lucy – and that’s what will connect with an audience.

Here’s the key:

Don’t tell jokes. Tell stories.

If you have stories or examples related to your topic that are naturally funny, lean into them. Use facial expressions, movement, and vocal variety. Keep it natural.

And most importantly – use your personality.

Think about how you talk with your friends. When something funny happens and you tell the story, you probably don’t plan the punchline – you just tell it in your own way, and people laugh. That’s your natural comedic rhythm.

Now imagine your audience as a room full of friends. Deliver your message with that same warmth, spontaneity, and humor. You’ll inform them and entertain them.

People remember speakers who make them feel something – especially laughter. They’ll forget the PowerPoint slides, but they’ll remember you.

That’s how you stand out from the competition.

It worked for Rodney, Henny, and Lucy – and it can work for you, too.

Thanks for reading and as always – keep laughing!!

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Bomb Alert! An Onstage Survival Guide

Hi Dave – What should you do if no one is laughing or if you realize that you are starting to bomb? – A.B.

Hey A.B. – Duck and cover.

On stage excitement!

Okay, that’s probably not the answer you were looking for. So, here’s another one that I’ve seen actually work.

But first, a quick definition.

Some readers may not know exactly what bombing means. It’s when you’re on stage doing your best to entertain — whether you’re a comedian or a humorous speaker — and absolutely nothing is working. The audience isn’t laughing, you start to panic, you begin to sweat, and you’re convinced everyone in the room hates you.

That’s Bombing 101.

And if you ever get used to it, you’re in the wrong business. I don’t know a single comedian who hasn’t gone through it. And if one claims they haven’t, they’re just playing a joke on you.

The dedicated comics never let bombing stop them. But the smart ones use it as a learning experience – usually discovering what not to do next time.

In my book Comedy FAQs and Answers, I talked with comedian George Wallace about this. Early in his career, he performed under the stage name The Reverend George Wallace and used a phone book as his “Bible.” The bit killed in New York City – until his first road gig in upstate New York.

The audience hated it.

He was booked for an hour, and he did an hour, but it was a mega-ton bomb. Driving home, he felt so bad he actually thought about steering off a bridge.

But that night became a turning point. He swore he’d never let that happen again. He rethought everything about his act and his stage persona. The “Reverend” was gone — so was the phone book. He decided that if he was having fun on stage, the audience would too.

And if the audience is having fun, you’re not bombing.

If you’ve ever seen George Wallace perform, you know what I mean. The man is practically immune to bombing.

How to Turn It Around – In Real Time

So, what should you do when it’s happening to you?

Here’s a proven technique I’ve seen big-name comics use to turn a tough crowd around: talk TO and WITH the audience.

Seriously — I’ve seen it more times than I can count. When your material isn’t connecting, stop pushing it. Put the script aside for a moment and start engaging the people in front of you.

A Story from The Improv

When I was scheduling comics for the Hollywood Improv, one of our most reliable — and funniest – acts had a rare off night. His material was top-notch, but for whatever reason, the audience just wasn’t responding.

To my surprise, he did something I’d never seen him do. He took the microphone out of the stand, walked to the front of the stage, and started talking directly to the audience.

He kept it casual: “Where are you from?” “What do you do for a living?”

Simple questions that led to funny exchanges and real conversation.

Once the audience was relaxed and engaged, he stepped back, put the mic in the stand, and went back to his material. This time, they loved him. They got the jokes, laughed hard, and he walked off to huge applause.

Why It Worked

When I asked him about it later, he reminded me that most comedians start out as MCs – hosting shows, introducing acts, and learning how to warm up a crowd. The MC’s job is to get the audience laughing and involved.

And the best way to do that? Talk TO and WITH them.

It’s a skill every comic should learn early – one that can save you in a tough room. I saw comedians use this technique not only in Los Angeles, but also when I managed The Improv clubs in New York and Cleveland. It’s not luck or instinct – it’s a learned survival tool.

The Bottom Line

When you feel the energy dropping or your set slipping away, stop talking at the audience and start talking with them.

It’s the quickest way to rebuild the connection – and remind everyone, including yourself, that this is supposed to be fun.

And if that doesn’t work? Well, there’s always the old “duck and cover” method.

Thanks for reading and as always – keep laughing!

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