Comedy Blues and Creative Highs

Hey Dave – I have a confession to make and was wondering if this is normal or not and if so, how to deal with it? Is there such a thing as having the blues in comedy? I guess you could call it the Comedy Blues. I mean, I’ve been told “no” before and had terrible sets in the past. But I strongly feel it has made me the keen comedian I am today. But still, if I may… help! – A.

An instrument for creativity

Hey A. – Congratulations. You’re a creative artist.

And what you’re feeling? It comes with the territory.

A career in the arts—comedy, speaking, acting, music, writing—often means riding an emotional roller coaster. Big highs. Big lows. That’s one reason so many people wish they could do it, but don’t. Standing on stage, getting laughs, meeting fans, and getting paid is a great gig. From the audience, it looks glamorous. What they don’t see is the rejection, the waiting, the self-doubt, and the work.

The people who truly pursue it usually don’t feel like they have a choice. They have to do it.

This may sound more motivational than instructional today but stay with me.

Let’s talk music for a second. Some great songs are about incredible highs. Others are about lows—the blues. Blues songs exist because nothing worth having comes easy. They’re about loss, frustration, and struggle.

Now translate that to comedy.

Creative words from a creative artist

If you’re serious about being a comedian (or humorous speaker), you want things to happen now. But progress is slow. Opportunities are unpredictable. Yes, there are huge highs—your first paid gig, passing an audition, winning a contest. But there are also long stretches where nothing clicks, nothing moves, and doors stay closed.

Here’s the truth: every working comic will tell you that you’ll hear “no” far more than “yes,” especially early on.

That’s not a flaw in the system. That is the system.

If you want to stay in this business long enough to build a career, you need to develop thick skin. There’s no shortcut around it.

Think of it like sports. The best relief pitchers in baseball blow saves. What separates them from the ones who spiral or disappear is their ability to shake it off and throw the next pitch with confidence. That mindset has to be learned—or developed quickly—if you want to survive in a competitive field.

Comedy is exactly that: a creative art inside a competitive business.

You put your work—and yourself—out there to be judged by bookers, producers, and audiences. Some will love it. Some won’t. The goal isn’t avoiding highs and lows. The goal is not letting either one define you.

I remember working in New York and hearing brand-new comics say they planned to have a sitcom within a year. I heard it more than once. Meanwhile, the comics hanging around the NY Improv—Ray Romano, Larry David, Dave Attell (to mention only three)—had been grinding for years. They didn’t get everything they auditioned for. They just didn’t quit when someone said “no.”

Unrealistic expectations create massive lows.

Understanding the process creates resilience.

That process has a name: paying your dues. Some people drop out because they can’t take the lows. Others continue because they’re wired to create—whether success comes quickly or not. Continuing doesn’t guarantee success. Talent, business skills, relationships, and luck all matter. But quitting guarantees nothing.

So, what do you do with the Comedy Blues?

Sometimes you step back and regroup. Sometimes you put your head down and keep going. For many creative artists, there isn’t really a choice.

One final thought: consider using those feelings in your writing.

You don’t need to talk about the Comedy Blues—but bringing real emotion into your material adds honesty and depth. Audiences can spot fake instantly. They can also sense when someone is telling the truth, even through jokes.

Most strong comics and speakers draw from experience. They’ve ridden the roller coaster. They’ve paid their dues.

Remember—this is a creative art.
And being a creative artist has never been easy.

But for those who feel called to it?
It’s the only ride worth taking.

Thanks for reading and as always – keep laughing!!

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The Comedy Police Force

Hey Dave – I was at an open-mic last week. A comic went on stage and “called out” another comic who had gone before him for stealing jokes. He did this from the stage. Afterwards, he couldn’t prove it – and no one else remembered hearing those jokes anywhere else. We think he was wrong and handled it wrong. Any thoughts? – D

Comedy police out for joke-stealers!

Hey D – I always have thoughts. And when they’re about comics stealing material, they’re never good ones.

What a jerk.

Wait… let me rethink that. We might have two jerks here. Allow me to think out loud – or at least in loud writing.

JERK #1

This honor goes to the comic who “called out” the other one from the stage.

First of all, he admitted afterward that he had no proof. Maybe he thought he was being edgy—sometimes that works—but not when it’s at the expense of another comic who’s just trying to improve at an open-mic. That’s what these nights are for: getting better.

(And of course, this assumes the first comic didn’t actually steal material.)

The accuser should’ve talked to him privately, not trashed him in front of an audience. Unless a comic is known for stealing, the professional move is to speak offstage, one-on-one.

Bill Engvall talked about this in my book Comedy FAQs and Answers. He called it the comedy police.

Mention it!

When you think someone’s stealing, mention it—but privately. Comics should police each other, keep each other honest. If the warned comic keeps doing the same bit after being told, then there might be consequences.

But sometimes it’s not theft – it’s coincidence.

I once knew two comics, one in New York and one in Los Angeles, who independently wrote the same joke. They didn’t know each other and had never worked the same clubs. But the LA comic did the joke on the television show, A&E’s An Evening at the Improv.

(I know, because I was the talent coordinator standing off – camera when it happened.)

After the taping, I called the NY comic – both are still friends of mine – and told him what happened. He immediately said, “Well, I can’t do that joke anymore.” He wasn’t mad, because he knew they’d both written it honestly. But now that it had aired nationally, the other guy “owned” it.

That’s just how the business works.

So yes, a comic can accidentally do something too similar to someone else’s bit. The right way to handle that is quietly and respectfully – not grandstanding from the stage.

If you’ve got proof, talk privately. If he keeps doing it, then you can call him out.

JERK #2

Now let’s talk about the other jerk – the one who really does steal.

Back in New York, when I was starting out, there was an open-mic comic who ran a popular show. He was a nice guy, gave people stage time, and claimed to be a headliner in Florida.

That didn’t quite add up.

Turned out, he was going to Florida and doing the best material he’d stolen from comics performing at his open-mic.

Say what?!

The reaction from the NY comedy scene was swift and brutal. Nobody played his open-mic anymore, and no one else would give him stage time. Word got around, and eventually, he left for Florida to “pursue his career.” I later heard he was parking cars. Can’t confirm that – but it fits.

A few years later, when I was talent coordinator for An Evening at the Improv, he called my office trying to play the “old friend” card for an audition. Short story – he didn’t get one.

Chalk another up for the comedy police.

The Bottom Line

So, to answer your question, yeah – the comic who called the other one out from the stage was wrong. If he thought there was a problem, he should’ve handled it privately. Maybe the other comic didn’t even realize it. But if there’s proof, he needs to stop doing the joke.

And if he really is stealing? The comedy police will take care of it.

Comedy is a small world. Word gets around fast.

If it’s obvious someone’s stealing and they keep doing it, they’ll be blacklisted before long. Odds are better they’ll be parking cars at a comedy club before they ever “own” anyone else’s material on television.

Thanks for reading and as always – keep laughing!

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Bomb Alert! An Onstage Survival Guide

Hi Dave – What should you do if no one is laughing or if you realize that you are starting to bomb? – A.B.

Hey A.B. – Duck and cover.

On stage excitement!

Okay, that’s probably not the answer you were looking for. So, here’s another one that I’ve seen actually work.

But first, a quick definition.

Some readers may not know exactly what bombing means. It’s when you’re on stage doing your best to entertain — whether you’re a comedian or a humorous speaker — and absolutely nothing is working. The audience isn’t laughing, you start to panic, you begin to sweat, and you’re convinced everyone in the room hates you.

That’s Bombing 101.

And if you ever get used to it, you’re in the wrong business. I don’t know a single comedian who hasn’t gone through it. And if one claims they haven’t, they’re just playing a joke on you.

The dedicated comics never let bombing stop them. But the smart ones use it as a learning experience – usually discovering what not to do next time.

In my book Comedy FAQs and Answers, I talked with comedian George Wallace about this. Early in his career, he performed under the stage name The Reverend George Wallace and used a phone book as his “Bible.” The bit killed in New York City – until his first road gig in upstate New York.

The audience hated it.

He was booked for an hour, and he did an hour, but it was a mega-ton bomb. Driving home, he felt so bad he actually thought about steering off a bridge.

But that night became a turning point. He swore he’d never let that happen again. He rethought everything about his act and his stage persona. The “Reverend” was gone — so was the phone book. He decided that if he was having fun on stage, the audience would too.

And if the audience is having fun, you’re not bombing.

If you’ve ever seen George Wallace perform, you know what I mean. The man is practically immune to bombing.

How to Turn It Around – In Real Time

So, what should you do when it’s happening to you?

Here’s a proven technique I’ve seen big-name comics use to turn a tough crowd around: talk TO and WITH the audience.

Seriously — I’ve seen it more times than I can count. When your material isn’t connecting, stop pushing it. Put the script aside for a moment and start engaging the people in front of you.

A Story from The Improv

When I was scheduling comics for the Hollywood Improv, one of our most reliable — and funniest – acts had a rare off night. His material was top-notch, but for whatever reason, the audience just wasn’t responding.

To my surprise, he did something I’d never seen him do. He took the microphone out of the stand, walked to the front of the stage, and started talking directly to the audience.

He kept it casual: “Where are you from?” “What do you do for a living?”

Simple questions that led to funny exchanges and real conversation.

Once the audience was relaxed and engaged, he stepped back, put the mic in the stand, and went back to his material. This time, they loved him. They got the jokes, laughed hard, and he walked off to huge applause.

Why It Worked

When I asked him about it later, he reminded me that most comedians start out as MCs – hosting shows, introducing acts, and learning how to warm up a crowd. The MC’s job is to get the audience laughing and involved.

And the best way to do that? Talk TO and WITH them.

It’s a skill every comic should learn early – one that can save you in a tough room. I saw comedians use this technique not only in Los Angeles, but also when I managed The Improv clubs in New York and Cleveland. It’s not luck or instinct – it’s a learned survival tool.

The Bottom Line

When you feel the energy dropping or your set slipping away, stop talking at the audience and start talking with them.

It’s the quickest way to rebuild the connection – and remind everyone, including yourself, that this is supposed to be fun.

And if that doesn’t work? Well, there’s always the old “duck and cover” method.

Thanks for reading and as always – keep laughing!

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Looking for stage time

Hey Dave – I have performed terribly at three open-mics in Kentucky. Could you point me in the direction of a “lower end” establishment in Ohio? I’m looking for a place that does not require you to bring five friends. I don’t know five people. Thanks, J.

Come’on in – please!!

Hey J Thanks for thinking of me when it comes to “lower end” establishments. Maybe I should start calling this the Blue Collar Comedy Column – but let’s not go there. Instead of chasing a “higher end” reputation, let’s focus on what you really need: stage time.

First, about the whole bring-five-friends thing…

Open mics that aren’t at established comedy clubs tend to come and go quickly. Most are in bars, restaurants, or small venues. If the owner is making money on comedy night, it keeps going. If not, they swap the mic for a giant TV and start packing the place for football season.

That’s why you see so many “bringer” shows. It’s a simple business deal:

  • You bring paying customers.
  • They give you stage time to get experience and improve.

From their perspective, everybody wins.

Stage time!

Now, back when I started in this crazy business, we performed at open-mics in NYC that always had an audience – no bringer requirement. But times have changed. Today, getting stage time often means convincing friends to pay a cover and buy a couple drinks.

Chris Murphy, a comedy coach in NYC, shared some great tips on beating the bringer system in my book Comedy FAQs and Answers. Check your library or grab a copy online if you want the full story.

But let’s get back to your real question – where to find open-mics.

Here’s the deal: open-mic lists get outdated fast. I used to hand them out in my workshops, but by the next session, half the places had shut down or switched to karaoke. The smarter approach is:

  1. Research – Google comedy clubs in your area (Ohio in your case). Most legit clubs post open-mic info on their websites because it’s free promotion.
  2. Call – If there’s no info online, call the club. You’ll probably talk to a staffer, not the owner, so don’t worry about annoying the wrong person. Fun fact: many people answering phones at comedy clubs are aspiring comics themselves.

Even if the club doesn’t have an open mic, ask if they know of any. Comics tend to know where stage time is happening.

Once you find one open-mic, go there. Perform, hang out, and start talking to other comics. That’s networking – and it’s the real key to finding stage time. Comics share info, recommend each other, and build local comedy scenes together.

A few tips:

  • Be supportive. Watch other comics. Don’t just do your set and leave.
  • Share open-mic info when you find it.
  • Avoid being “that guy” who only takes and never gives back.

And yes, you’ll meet a few jerks along the way. Every business has them. Ignore the negativity and focus on improving and building connections.

The bottom line:
Once you are part of a local comedy scene, you’ll hear about open-mics before they’re even posted online. The more supportive you are, the more stage time opportunities will come your way.

Simple? From what I’ve seen, it usually is.

Thanks for reading and as always – keep laughing!

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Finding stage time in Los Angeles

Hey Dave – I won a contest for a trip to Los Angeles to appear in a commercial. Unfortunately, since I’m not in SAG-AFTRA (Actors Guild), I’m being buried in the background as an extra. I’m pretty stoked about the trip though. I’m hoping to hit one of the popular comedy clubs in Hollywood and see if they’ll let me do a guest set. I’m wondering if you have any recommendations. I’ll be there next week for six days. – S.

LA – where dreams can come true!

Hey S. – First, congratulations! Winning a contest for a trip to L.A. is very cool, even if they’re burying you in the background since you’re not in the actor’s union. Consider it motivation to get that SAG-AFTRA card — though, to be honest, I had mine for years and still got buried in the background plenty of times.

Here’s the scoop — and, of course, your experience might be different:

Unless you’re already a well-known or semi-known headliner or feature with credits and contacts who can vouch for you, it’s extremely tough to get stage time at the popular Hollywood clubs when you’re just in town for a week. The local comics have invested years hanging out, showcasing, networking, taking workshops, bringing paying audiences (“bringer shows”), and doing whatever it takes to get seen.

The bookers at clubs like The Improv, The Comedy Store, and The Laugh Factory need to spend their time on comedians they can actually book again soon. Giving a visiting comic a guest spot doesn’t help them much — unless you have a strong recommendation from a trusted regular (and I mean a real regular, not someone who’s just emceeing Monday open-mic nights).

I’ve been the talent booker at The Improv in L.A., so trust me — I know how this works.

So, to be blunt: it’s very unlikely you’ll score stage time at the big-name clubs during your short trip. But that doesn’t mean it can’t be a productive comedy visit.

Here’s what I recommend:

 

👉 Hit the open mics. L.A. has tons of them — Google “Los Angeles comedy open mics 2025” and you’ll find plenty. In fact, I just did and here’s a LINK. Always check that they’re still running — venues open and close fast. Call ahead or reach out to whoever books it. Some shows may ask you to bring guests; some may squeeze you in because you’re from out of town. You won’t know unless you ask.

👉 Check out the big clubs anyway. Even if you can’t get on stage, you should absolutely go watch a show or two. See how the pros work. Weeknight shows are best for watching up-and-coming comics; weekends are more touristy and packed with big names you can see on TV. You’ll learn a lot just by observing.

👉 Use this trip for inspiration. Wherever you find comedians, you’ll find comics hunting for stage time. It’s part of the grind. So, treat this trip as a chance to network, see what’s working in a major scene, and maybe make a few connections you can build on down the line.

Enjoy the commercial shoot, make the most of your free time, and soak up everything you can. Who knows? Maybe your next visit will be with a SAG-AFTRA card — and a real spot on the lineup.

Break a leg and have a blast in L.A.!

Thanks for reading and as always – keep laughing!

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