Comedy Blues and Creative Highs

Hey Dave – I have a confession to make and was wondering if this is normal or not and if so, how to deal with it? Is there such a thing as having the blues in comedy? I guess you could call it the Comedy Blues. I mean, I’ve been told “no” before and had terrible sets in the past. But I strongly feel it has made me the keen comedian I am today. But still, if I may… help! – A.

An instrument for creativity

Hey A. – Congratulations. You’re a creative artist.

And what you’re feeling? It comes with the territory.

A career in the arts—comedy, speaking, acting, music, writing—often means riding an emotional roller coaster. Big highs. Big lows. That’s one reason so many people wish they could do it, but don’t. Standing on stage, getting laughs, meeting fans, and getting paid is a great gig. From the audience, it looks glamorous. What they don’t see is the rejection, the waiting, the self-doubt, and the work.

The people who truly pursue it usually don’t feel like they have a choice. They have to do it.

This may sound more motivational than instructional today but stay with me.

Let’s talk music for a second. Some great songs are about incredible highs. Others are about lows—the blues. Blues songs exist because nothing worth having comes easy. They’re about loss, frustration, and struggle.

Now translate that to comedy.

Creative words from a creative artist

If you’re serious about being a comedian (or humorous speaker), you want things to happen now. But progress is slow. Opportunities are unpredictable. Yes, there are huge highs—your first paid gig, passing an audition, winning a contest. But there are also long stretches where nothing clicks, nothing moves, and doors stay closed.

Here’s the truth: every working comic will tell you that you’ll hear “no” far more than “yes,” especially early on.

That’s not a flaw in the system. That is the system.

If you want to stay in this business long enough to build a career, you need to develop thick skin. There’s no shortcut around it.

Think of it like sports. The best relief pitchers in baseball blow saves. What separates them from the ones who spiral or disappear is their ability to shake it off and throw the next pitch with confidence. That mindset has to be learned—or developed quickly—if you want to survive in a competitive field.

Comedy is exactly that: a creative art inside a competitive business.

You put your work—and yourself—out there to be judged by bookers, producers, and audiences. Some will love it. Some won’t. The goal isn’t avoiding highs and lows. The goal is not letting either one define you.

I remember working in New York and hearing brand-new comics say they planned to have a sitcom within a year. I heard it more than once. Meanwhile, the comics hanging around the NY Improv—Ray Romano, Larry David, Dave Attell (to mention only three)—had been grinding for years. They didn’t get everything they auditioned for. They just didn’t quit when someone said “no.”

Unrealistic expectations create massive lows.

Understanding the process creates resilience.

That process has a name: paying your dues. Some people drop out because they can’t take the lows. Others continue because they’re wired to create—whether success comes quickly or not. Continuing doesn’t guarantee success. Talent, business skills, relationships, and luck all matter. But quitting guarantees nothing.

So, what do you do with the Comedy Blues?

Sometimes you step back and regroup. Sometimes you put your head down and keep going. For many creative artists, there isn’t really a choice.

One final thought: consider using those feelings in your writing.

You don’t need to talk about the Comedy Blues—but bringing real emotion into your material adds honesty and depth. Audiences can spot fake instantly. They can also sense when someone is telling the truth, even through jokes.

Most strong comics and speakers draw from experience. They’ve ridden the roller coaster. They’ve paid their dues.

Remember—this is a creative art.
And being a creative artist has never been easy.

But for those who feel called to it?
It’s the only ride worth taking.

Thanks for reading and as always – keep laughing!!

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Looking for stage time

Hey Dave – I have performed terribly at three open-mics in Kentucky. Could you point me in the direction of a “lower end” establishment in Ohio? I’m looking for a place that does not require you to bring five friends. I don’t know five people. Thanks, J.

Come’on in – please!!

Hey J Thanks for thinking of me when it comes to “lower end” establishments. Maybe I should start calling this the Blue Collar Comedy Column – but let’s not go there. Instead of chasing a “higher end” reputation, let’s focus on what you really need: stage time.

First, about the whole bring-five-friends thing…

Open mics that aren’t at established comedy clubs tend to come and go quickly. Most are in bars, restaurants, or small venues. If the owner is making money on comedy night, it keeps going. If not, they swap the mic for a giant TV and start packing the place for football season.

That’s why you see so many “bringer” shows. It’s a simple business deal:

  • You bring paying customers.
  • They give you stage time to get experience and improve.

From their perspective, everybody wins.

Stage time!

Now, back when I started in this crazy business, we performed at open-mics in NYC that always had an audience – no bringer requirement. But times have changed. Today, getting stage time often means convincing friends to pay a cover and buy a couple drinks.

Chris Murphy, a comedy coach in NYC, shared some great tips on beating the bringer system in my book Comedy FAQs and Answers. Check your library or grab a copy online if you want the full story.

But let’s get back to your real question – where to find open-mics.

Here’s the deal: open-mic lists get outdated fast. I used to hand them out in my workshops, but by the next session, half the places had shut down or switched to karaoke. The smarter approach is:

  1. Research – Google comedy clubs in your area (Ohio in your case). Most legit clubs post open-mic info on their websites because it’s free promotion.
  2. Call – If there’s no info online, call the club. You’ll probably talk to a staffer, not the owner, so don’t worry about annoying the wrong person. Fun fact: many people answering phones at comedy clubs are aspiring comics themselves.

Even if the club doesn’t have an open mic, ask if they know of any. Comics tend to know where stage time is happening.

Once you find one open-mic, go there. Perform, hang out, and start talking to other comics. That’s networking – and it’s the real key to finding stage time. Comics share info, recommend each other, and build local comedy scenes together.

A few tips:

  • Be supportive. Watch other comics. Don’t just do your set and leave.
  • Share open-mic info when you find it.
  • Avoid being “that guy” who only takes and never gives back.

And yes, you’ll meet a few jerks along the way. Every business has them. Ignore the negativity and focus on improving and building connections.

The bottom line:
Once you are part of a local comedy scene, you’ll hear about open-mics before they’re even posted online. The more supportive you are, the more stage time opportunities will come your way.

Simple? From what I’ve seen, it usually is.

Thanks for reading and as always – keep laughing!

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Finding stage time in Los Angeles

Hey Dave – I won a contest for a trip to Los Angeles to appear in a commercial. Unfortunately, since I’m not in SAG-AFTRA (Actors Guild), I’m being buried in the background as an extra. I’m pretty stoked about the trip though. I’m hoping to hit one of the popular comedy clubs in Hollywood and see if they’ll let me do a guest set. I’m wondering if you have any recommendations. I’ll be there next week for six days. – S.

LA – where dreams can come true!

Hey S. – First, congratulations! Winning a contest for a trip to L.A. is very cool, even if they’re burying you in the background since you’re not in the actor’s union. Consider it motivation to get that SAG-AFTRA card — though, to be honest, I had mine for years and still got buried in the background plenty of times.

Here’s the scoop — and, of course, your experience might be different:

Unless you’re already a well-known or semi-known headliner or feature with credits and contacts who can vouch for you, it’s extremely tough to get stage time at the popular Hollywood clubs when you’re just in town for a week. The local comics have invested years hanging out, showcasing, networking, taking workshops, bringing paying audiences (“bringer shows”), and doing whatever it takes to get seen.

The bookers at clubs like The Improv, The Comedy Store, and The Laugh Factory need to spend their time on comedians they can actually book again soon. Giving a visiting comic a guest spot doesn’t help them much — unless you have a strong recommendation from a trusted regular (and I mean a real regular, not someone who’s just emceeing Monday open-mic nights).

I’ve been the talent booker at The Improv in L.A., so trust me — I know how this works.

So, to be blunt: it’s very unlikely you’ll score stage time at the big-name clubs during your short trip. But that doesn’t mean it can’t be a productive comedy visit.

Here’s what I recommend:

 

👉 Hit the open mics. L.A. has tons of them — Google “Los Angeles comedy open mics 2025” and you’ll find plenty. In fact, I just did and here’s a LINK. Always check that they’re still running — venues open and close fast. Call ahead or reach out to whoever books it. Some shows may ask you to bring guests; some may squeeze you in because you’re from out of town. You won’t know unless you ask.

👉 Check out the big clubs anyway. Even if you can’t get on stage, you should absolutely go watch a show or two. See how the pros work. Weeknight shows are best for watching up-and-coming comics; weekends are more touristy and packed with big names you can see on TV. You’ll learn a lot just by observing.

👉 Use this trip for inspiration. Wherever you find comedians, you’ll find comics hunting for stage time. It’s part of the grind. So, treat this trip as a chance to network, see what’s working in a major scene, and maybe make a few connections you can build on down the line.

Enjoy the commercial shoot, make the most of your free time, and soak up everything you can. Who knows? Maybe your next visit will be with a SAG-AFTRA card — and a real spot on the lineup.

Break a leg and have a blast in L.A.!

Thanks for reading and as always – keep laughing!

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Comedy contests offer stage time

Hi Dave – I did an open mic and saw the club was hosting another round of their “Best Amateur Comedian” contest. I want to enter, but not sure I’m ready. What’s the deal with comedy contests overall? – L.P.

More stage time!

Hey L.P. – Here’s a big chunk of personal opinion. I like comedy contests in clubs for one simple reason – stage time. Otherwise, I’m not a big fan. Winners are usually decided by audience applause and the person who packs in the most friends (voters) will win. I’ve seen this happen over and over and can’t remember ever seeing the funniest comedian (another chunk of personal opinion) actually win one of these contests. Whoever can coax in the most paying customers will be awarded, “Funniest Comedian.”

Doesn’t seem fair – does it?

Of course, the club owners and management have no problem with this because they make money from paying customers. And you know what? I also have NO PROBLEM with that because it’s show BUSINESS and if the club doesn’t make money, then comedians have one less place to perform. That’s the business part that comedians and performers in general need to understand. So, from that point of view – I’m a BIG fan of comedy contests.

But since you’re a comedian, let’s stick with the comedian’s point of view…

There are other ways to decide contest winners. Similar to the format used on the various television talent shows there might be a panel of judges making the award-winning decision. I’m sure most comedians would deem that more of a fair competition when performing in front of a loaded audience, but then you need to impress the judges. Depending on what they personally enjoy (clean comedy, adult comedy, etc.…) this might compromise your comedy voice and material.

This is also true if you have to play by their rules.

But I still got on stage!

For instance, I’ve seen comedians disqualified from contests because they’ve accidentally dropped the F-Bomb (against the rules) or went 10 seconds over their allotted time – even though the only reason they couldn’t get through their set in the given amount of time was because of audience applause and laugh breaks. But you need to follow their specific contest rules and if you don’t – then you just blew it in front of the judges.

Again – doesn’t seem fair, does it? The losers will tell you that, while the winners will add the award to their resumes.

Here’s the real scoop about comedy contests.

A BIG name, BIG time comedy contest is a BIG deal and will open up BIG opportunities for the BIG winners.

Think BIG – like the winners of the almost-forgotten television show Last Comic Standing or contests associated with a major city or festival like Montreal, Boston, New York or San Francisco. Win one of those and you not only will be seen by many important entertainment industry movers and shakers, but you could even wind up with your own sitcom.

No BS – I’ve seen it happen.

Of course there are always two sides to everything. Some of the best comedians I’ve worked with and respect the most never won a local comedy contest. And you know what? I don’t think any of them really care. They were simply dedicated to being good comedians and losing a contest never stopped them from working toward their goal. They also would never have considered changing who they are on stage or what language they use, and instead develop material that the judges would approve of next time.

That’s not why they got into the biz in the first place.

I’ll also make an assumption and say that during the early days of their careers they might have entered a local contest or two. But I’m sure they only did it for the same reason I’ll tell you to do it – stage time. I remember a few comics at the NYC Improv going to other clubs for contests and not even staying to see who won. That wasn’t important – getting on stage was.

Any time you have an opportunity to get on stage and work on your act, grab it and use it to your advantage. As you should know, improving as a comedian (humorous speaker or performer in general) can only happen through performing experience. And you know what comedy contests offer?

STAGE TIME.

Yeah, they may also offer cash prizes and more stage time, so of course you want to win to reap those benefits. But if you don’t, there’s no reason to sweat it or feel bad.

By the way, that’s why I’m not a big fan of comedy contests. Not everyone starts out in the business with a thick skin. That has to be developed if you ever plan to be serious about a comedy career. Newer comedians might put too much weight behind a comedy contest and feel if they don’t win, they’re not talented. No – it just means you didn’t bring enough friends, didn’t cater to the judge’s sense of humor, or haven’t had enough stage experience. There are no short cuts – sorry.

But you still win because you get stage time. So, contests are good for that reason.

If you win the contest – that’s great! I hope it leads to more stage time. But if you don’t…

Like I’ve mentioned, a lot of top comedians never won a contest and never lost any sleep over it. They took advantage of the experience on stage and used it to become better comedians.

So go ahead – enter. Just know why you’re doing it.

For the experience. Not the trophy.

Thanks for reading and as always – keep laughing!

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